Being a single, female nerd in a world where people rarely
understand what you’re looking for is tough. Considering that most stereotypes assume
we are all losers with no lives and limited intelligence and/or maturity makes
it tougher. As a single nerd of the female persuasion, I’ve run into a lot of
Sheldons and Simpson’s comic book guys while I search for that nerdy
significant other.
This week, I’ll attempt to provide some tips that while obvious;
tend to fly over intelligent brains. They are based on my own experiences and while
they may not work on all nerdy girls out there, I think it will significantly
raise your odds at approaching one successfully.
Here are two examples of very common situations I run into:
Situation #1: You’re in a comic book store and you see a
girl looking at a Serenity comic
book. While you think Firefly is the
most overrated series ever, you still think this girl is worth your time.
Do Not: Approach her and say “Oh God, you like Firefly? Whedon is overrated, Fillion
sucks and Simon should’ve died instead of Wash.
Babylon 5 is so much better.” You will not only
anger her inner fangirl, but you will come off as a tactless fanboy.
Try this: “You like Firefly?
I dislike it myself but I would love to know why you like it.” You’ll not only
break the ice but you’ll know why exactly she’s a fan. You’ll also be able to
check if she can formulate coherent arguments and maybe even find a way to discuss
something related. Who knows, maybe she likes Babylon 5 too.
Situation #2: You’re shopping at your local store and see a
girl holding a copy of your favorite graphic novel in her hands. Elated at the
fact that this girl has chosen this book and struck your fancy; you approach
her.
Do not: Go into full blown fangasms. No. Just no. Nobody
likes that. It’s not sexy, man. The only girls who might like that are the ones
who make creepy character ships. Are those droids you are looking for?
Try this: Casually approach her and say “wow, I love that
book. You’re in for a great read.” At the very least the girl will smile,
giving you the chance to further break the ice and smoothly introduce yourself.
Keep your fangasming to a minimum. You can squee in your own time.
Additional things you
might want to consider are:
1. Proper
grooming. A lot of men forget this. Not everyone looks like Bruce Wayne, but
that’s no excuse for smelling like Killer Croc. Proper care of hair, skin and
body odors should go before than that collector’s edition of Batman: The Court of Owls.
2. While
having all generations of the X-Men in action figures is cool, it is not cool
to make your home a shrine to it. Decorate your place with maturity. Display
your fandom but keep it contained and tasteful. Do you like girls who have a
hundred stuffed animals everywhere? Well we don’t like guys who have their
entire place decorated in X-Men memorabilia. Always display both, style and
maturity.
3. Don’t
make your nerd vice the entire purpose of your life. There are better, bigger
things out there. A girl may like video games but she also enjoys romance and
going out to non-nerdy events too. Be a person first, a fanboy second. Girls prefer
to date a guy with a career who happens to love comic books more than a fanboy
who happens to have a job.
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| Louis Greene may have been a douche in Dexter, but look at his geeky yet stylish apartment. |
It isn’t like that all my friends. Remember your hygiene,
tact and manners and you should be good.
Currently Listening To: Last Kiss - Pearl Jam
Book on My Nightstand: Supergods - Grant Morrison
On my TV: Instructions Not Included
Currently Retro gaming: About to start on a new game. Haven't chosen yet.
Random Pop Culture Thought of the Day: "Just because I am wearing a Batman t-shirt, you do not have the right to call them "bat-boobs"! And no, that is not the proper way to introduce yourself."
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