Thursday, January 30, 2014

Comic Book Thursdays: Basic Tips for Impressing Lady Nerds



Being a single, female nerd in a world where people rarely understand what you’re looking for is tough. Considering that most stereotypes assume we are all losers with no lives and limited intelligence and/or maturity makes it tougher. As a single nerd of the female persuasion, I’ve run into a lot of Sheldons and Simpson’s comic book guys while I search for that nerdy significant other.

This week, I’ll attempt to provide some tips that while obvious; tend to fly over intelligent brains. They are based on my own experiences and while they may not work on all nerdy girls out there, I think it will significantly raise your odds at approaching one successfully.



Here are two examples of very common situations I run into:

Situation #1: You’re in a comic book store and you see a girl looking at a Serenity comic book. While you think Firefly is the most overrated series ever, you still think this girl is worth your time.

Do Not: Approach her and say “Oh God, you like Firefly? Whedon is overrated, Fillion sucks and Simon should’ve died instead of Wash. Babylon 5 is so much better.” You will not only anger her inner fangirl, but you will come off as a tactless fanboy.

Try this: “You like Firefly? I dislike it myself but I would love to know why you like it.” You’ll not only break the ice but you’ll know why exactly she’s a fan. You’ll also be able to check if she can formulate coherent arguments and maybe even find a way to discuss something related. Who knows, maybe she likes Babylon 5 too.

Situation #2: You’re shopping at your local store and see a girl holding a copy of your favorite graphic novel in her hands. Elated at the fact that this girl has chosen this book and struck your fancy; you approach her.

Do not: Go into full blown fangasms. No. Just no. Nobody likes that. It’s not sexy, man. The only girls who might like that are the ones who make creepy character ships. Are those droids you are looking for?

Try this: Casually approach her and say “wow, I love that book. You’re in for a great read.” At the very least the girl will smile, giving you the chance to further break the ice and smoothly introduce yourself. Keep your fangasming to a minimum. You can squee in your own time.

 Additional things you might want to consider are:

1.      Proper grooming. A lot of men forget this. Not everyone looks like Bruce Wayne, but that’s no excuse for smelling like Killer Croc. Proper care of hair, skin and body odors should go before than that collector’s edition of Batman: The Court of Owls.

2.      While having all generations of the X-Men in action figures is cool, it is not cool to make your home a shrine to it. Decorate your place with maturity. Display your fandom but keep it contained and tasteful. Do you like girls who have a hundred stuffed animals everywhere? Well we don’t like guys who have their entire place decorated in X-Men memorabilia. Always display both, style and maturity.

3.      Don’t make your nerd vice the entire purpose of your life. There are better, bigger things out there. A girl may like video games but she also enjoys romance and going out to non-nerdy events too. Be a person first, a fanboy second. Girls prefer to date a guy with a career who happens to love comic books more than a fanboy who happens to have a job.

Louis Greene may have been a douche in Dexter, but look at his geeky yet stylish apartment.


See a trend forming here? The idea is to approach a nerdy girl in both, an intelligent and non-insulting way. While you may think that this applies to every girl in general, you’d be surprised how some guys think they get a free pass only because a girl is even marginally geeky.

It isn’t like that all my friends. Remember your hygiene, tact and manners and you should be good. 



Currently Listening To: Last Kiss - Pearl Jam
Book on My Nightstand: Supergods - Grant Morrison
On my TV: Instructions Not Included
Currently Retro gaming: About to start on a new game. Haven't chosen yet.
Random Pop Culture Thought of the Day: "Just because I am wearing a Batman t-shirt, you do not have the right to call them "bat-boobs"! And no, that is not the proper way to introduce yourself."


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